March 24, 2018 § 5 Comments
I received a scathing messaged from a long-time reader following my previous post. I knew it was scathing because of the tone and because it was capped with an exclamation mark. The sender was a woman I’ve known a long time, and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve heard her yell. Brash is not her style.
In one short line mom succinctly expressed how thoroughly unamused she was that I had written that last post and failed to include these three things: the flowers, the birds and the trees. Basically her three most favorite things in life. #whatkids
Joyous Abroad? Bless your heart. This is the Dorla Domestic show and we’re just along for the ride.
March 18, 2018 § 2 Comments
Not long ago a friend of mine sent me a message with the following:
“Joyce, what are you doing with your life?? You’re too secretive, we don’t know anything!”
It gave me a light chuckle as to the contrary, I think I share too much. That thought then gave me another laugh as I know practically nobody who would agree with that statement. But to answer her question––and most of yours––no longer treading water, I’ve been living and have been off having adventures.
A Slice of Americana, Pt. II
2015, as they often are, was a year of highs and lows.
For the first time in my life, I made it to San Antonio (where the quadrennial meeting of the Adventists happened be) and to Austin, Texas. We spent a total of two weeks down south. Unfortunately, I have no photos apart from these my mom took as my camera has been lost/stolen––let it be known that we (mom & I) walked the 5k event because I refuse to run for anything that isn’t an immediate threat to my life or the ice-cream truck. I did, however, mentally record instances.
San Antonio to me was surprisingly charming. The heat/humidity, was not. Naturally, the Riverwalk and botanical garden were my favorite, but I loved how the greater city was green with plant-life. Entirely unexpected.
Austin? Meh. Having been told how weird it was, I found it to be rather tame (Portland it is not!), but it was nice. Particularly the Capital building. Really though, in my mind, it’s just as if they plucked the city from the Pacific Northwest and put it in Texas, then replaced the land with a chuck of Texas and called it Idaho.
Because it’s her, mom insisted that we go to some bridge to see a bunch of bats. Allow this photo of her to accurately express how I felt about the suggestion:
Because it’s her though, I went.
June 25, 2017 § 1 Comment
Is this thing on? 📣
It’s been a good while since I’ve Joyoused and I’ve been scolded at length for it. Apologies to the nursing staff at Lourdes for leaving you un-entertained. I’ll do my best to amend my ways.
I’m officially 34. At least I think I am. As you know, my sister and I share the same day of birth (we are not twins), so there’s a 3-year range of confusion. Meine mutter? Gets my name wrong 80% of the time so she’s a dubious source. Google undoubtedly knows, pero like I can’t be bothered to ask her. What I do know is that somewhere along the way, I’ve:
- A. Forgotten how to properly bend/lift and have a lower back that hurts all the time. Am I to live that Bengay lifestyle now?
- B. Developed a set in my face frequently tuned to “Elderly woman entirely unimpressed with this foolishness”
- C. Realised that I will never be able to eat chocolate in bed without waking up to a mess. Pfft.
What was to be a happy week kicked off of a blue note. Meiko Chi Cheng T., my beloved feline friend and the apple of my eye, was laid to rest. Previously named Georgia, she came to me (small and slinky) from a colleague at Starbucks (my first job out of high school) who was getting hitched and was unable to have pets in the home for his new bride. Mei was one of three kitties and the only one I saw. She distrusted most humans, but took to me immediately. There never was a choice, really. I was meant to be her human. Despite my travels, so it remained to her last day.
The big day was part of a long weekend. Having had to work on my recent vacation, I shamelessly guilted my boss into letting me have Thursday and Friday off (and accounting into arranging a morning tea when I return). Istanbul this birthday was not, but I enjoyed it all the same. Instead of heading into the office, I slept in till 10am, picked up a free lunch at Subway and made my way to the zoo, which offers a $1 entry on your b-day.
If there’s one thing you learn about me in this post, let it be this: In addition to the little beast above–I am wholly enamored with seals and otters. I confess that they were the only reason I went to the zoo*. As it happens, there was a 2pm seal show and I got my ENTIRE LIFE watching it. One of the seals, Pepper I believe, did a choreography to Cinematic Orchestra’s “To Build at Home”, and yes, I did cry. If you even needed then you haven’t been paying attention. The cute was far more than I could handle. #whatstreetcred
Just before sunset, I ditched the zoo, grabbed some sushi and headed to the cinema to catch an evening viewing of Wonder Woman. To my delight, the theater was nearly empty. The next day I paid a visit to my hair dresser for a cut, and ended up walked out looking like my sister. FTR, this hair was not (has never been) chemically treated. Rumbi’s wizardry skills did not go beyond wash, blow dry and quick pass of the flat iron. Why it never looks like that when I do it is another thing.
*If you know of anyone with direct access to either of these creatures and can arrange for me to pet them, please feel free and encouraged to let me know.
PS: To friends around the globe, I’ve received your wishes. Thank you.
February 9, 2016 § 2 Comments
My layover began in the Midwest. Between the flight from London* and the one taking me home to Washington State, British Airways gave me roughly 16 hours to spend in the City of Wind. In some way 16 hours was more than enough. In other ways, not at all. When we last parted ways, Chicago was nearly as happy to see me leave as I was to go. Neither of us looked back and now there we were.
Apart from a completely busted suitcase, judgment from two male custom guards on the amount of items I’d brought back, and a lingering annoyance from the flight that just was, my American return was an easy one. Outside the international terminal awaited my very first roommate and best friend with Dunkin’ Donuts in tow. Throwback #1 to our early Chi-town days as poor art students at UIC, barely into our twenties and still very much wet behind the ears. The donuts were of course stale, having been acquired on an “If-it’s-free-its-me” basis from a nearby franchise. That didn’t stop us from destroying them all the same. Minus the custard ones, naturally. Those are sick.
With limited time, hunger and exhaustion on our side, we bypassed the skyline and headed straight for West Loop. My obsession with teriyaki salmon was still running it’s course, so we opted for a sushi joint in Little Italy. The irony. The meal wasn’t nearly as good as the one I’d had at Hashi Izakaya in Berlin just two days before, but the company was top notch. Coincidentally, the eatery was just across the street from last Midwest flat I (briefly) called home. So began the quest.
From there we stalked our first apartment, a basement unit next to a Catholic church in Bridgeport. My second place we didn’t dare venture. It was a bad neighborhood and I hadn’t realized it until it was too late. East Garfield Park. There wasn’t anything but fast food restaurants, gas stations and liquor joints. At the announcement of Obama’s (first) win, bursts of gunshots rang out in celebration. My last night there, I awoke to shouting: in the center of the two-lane one-way street that passed in front, an old skool Caddy lay flipped on its side. How that came to be I haven’t the faintest idea, but evidence showed that it careened into at least five other cars paralleled parked before it ended up so. Six men surrounded the car, its light still shining. “Hurry up, Get out the car!” they yelled at whoever was still side. “The police coming!” I quietly retreated to the back of the apartment to my room. Completely alone in the two story walkup (the 1st floor tenants returned to Lithuania months prior and my roommate–a magnate for burglars since the day she moved in–was visiting home), I kept myself hidden in the dark that night, drowning in fear and anxiety.
Before long–a short nap and a shower later to be precise–it was time to leave. I bade farewell to my friend’s partner, the Yin to her Yang, duck-taped the living hell out of my suitcase (throwback #2 to our first shower curtain which was comprised of large garbage bags carefully cut open and taped together; always whatever we could to get by) and was off. Little did I know that it would be the last I’d see of him. Rudy’s life would tragically come to an end months later. My homegirl’s grandmother would lie to rest just a week after.
After my first stint in the 3rd Coast circa 2004, I returned in 2006 to finish my degree at a small private university in Berrien Springs, Michigan. Whilst there, the Dutch-descended family of my friend adopted me in as one of their own. Occasional getaways and holidays I couldn’t make it home were spent in Holland, MI. If not her mom’s classic MGD, you’d often spot us putting around town in her grandparents cherry red jeep, always with me at the wheel. Their trust in and acceptance of me never ceased to amaze me. That lovely, loving bunch. Of him, I’m left with the memory of his muffled musings that night and her responding giggles. Of Grandma B, her bidding us a safe travel, giving us a hug, and asking us if we have enough food to take home. May these souls both rest in peace.
*The Heathrow-O’Hare flight: In which seats were switched, antiperspirant wasn’t worn, my items were borrowed, and I had to get up every half hour for my lush row mates, alternatively. One whom was a gangly thing en route back to Minneapolis from a business in Frankfurt, who kept leaning into my private space and asking me personal questions in great attempt to chat me up. “Are you traveling with your husband and family?” he asked in a manner I suspect was supposed to equate coy but equaled gross. My response was truthful but curt. Bathroom break yet again. And upon returning, dude spilled red wine in my seat and I cut him down. Not another peep. In fact, he bolted from the plane without so much another glance in my direction and went for the furthest lane at customs. I almost felt bad.
January 27, 2016 § Leave a comment
I hadn’t noticed it at first, but at some point during the journey from Macedonia back to Berlin a seed had fallen somewhere in the back of my mind. The menac project had kept me preoccupied, so while I could feel something happening, it wouldn’t be until the quiet days after that I’d notice something beginning to grow.
The ideas started of fragile and meager, as seedlings do; possibilities that could very well come to be or easily perish. Some did, but the ones that remained continued to grow. Strongly at that, into unwavering suggestions. Interestingly, these suggestions fed not on what reserve I had of hope, but off the energy I’d been expending into my life in Berlin. As they grew bigger, I became increasingly detached. Done before I knew I was.
Taking stock of my two years in Deutschland at that point, I was certainly better off than I’d been at the beginning, but not close to where I wanted to–or could-be. And I had a sneaking suspicion that, living there, I wouldn’t ever be. As I was coming to terms with the realization, an expiration date appeared on my flat agreement. This made the decision easy. I didn’t want to move again, but “if I had to,” I said to myself, “it’ll be into my own place or out of the country.”
The instability that is freelance journalism meant that independent living was out of reach. And while I believed it was possible to replicate the happy home life I was leaving behind, the thought of going through that process again and being at yet another’s mercy made me sick to my stomach. Never again. This left me with one viable option. The very outcome my subconscious had long alluded to: 2 months, 6 parcels (4 large + 2 small), and 6 suitcases later, Joyous Abroad found herself happily seated on a British Airways flight out of Germany.
January 17, 2016 § Leave a comment
I try to schedule a day of seclusion for every day on non-solo travel as a generally rule of thumb. Me needs to process and recoup. To re-Joyce, if you will. But there was little time for that; a new project was afoot. Perhaps if I had, I might have recognized it sooner…
I’d received a message during Week 1 of PGLI Macedonia from friend on the European Youth Press board (EYP) about an upcoming endeavour. If you recall, EYP is the organization the holds the European Youth Media Days (EYMD) in conjunction with the European Parliament (EP). I never wrote about it, but I’d invited back to the 2014 session in Strasbourg, France to participate as a workshop facilitator. Ironically enough, the topic assign to me was “Future of the EU.” In true American form I made a poster for it featuring a Delorean. (Yes, I’ll consider a throwback post.)
The upcoming project had nothing to do with EYMD, but with menac (the Middle East North Africa Committee), a group striving to enhance the voices of young journalists and media-makers across Europe and the MENA region, and to promote intercultural dialogue and the development of a better contextualisation of the respective regions. They needed final outcome packing.
The Rethinking Journalism 2014 Conference
The weeklong session took place in (East) Berlin, although I would have packed up again and taken off abroad without a second thought. It brought together 30 participants from Algeria, Austria, Bosnia and Herzegonina, Egypt, Germany, Lebanon, Lithuania, Latvia and Tunisia. The group of young media makers attended received training on peace journalism and conflict sensitivity via panel discussions, guest speakers and hands-on practicum. At the end of the session they were to submit a final project. That’s where I come in. I was asked to design and compile the completed works into a final publication for online and network distribution. And so I did. After a dizzyingly stressful week of labour, the magazine was born..
A beaut, isn’t she? The magazine can be perused online here (or copy and paste: http://issuu.com/joyousworks/docs/rethinking_journalism_magazine). Do take a look. Everyone worked very hard.
The 7-day event fittingly ended on the International Day of Peace. As much I’d wanted to stick around and kick back with my comrades, Joyous Abroad was on the move.
A Jamaican Celebration of Independence
Across town in the uppity center of West Berlin, the Jamaican Embassy was gearing up to host their “Folk Meets Opera” event at the Maritim Hotel. It was to commemorate the nation’s 52nd Anniversary of Independence. What that entailed, I hadn’t the foggiest idea, but there would be food and that was good enough for me.
But Joyce, you clown, how do up you end up at these things? You wouldn’t be the first to ask. It just so happens that the Adventist Network is a vast one filled with interesting people leading extraordinary lives. You may recall Medi, the pint-sized interior designer, and perhaps A.C., a recorded classical pianist and talented artist whose husband happens to conduct an Argentinean philharmonic. Then there’s D., second-in-command at the embassy whilst stationed there. At one point she was Chargés d’affaires ad interim (interim ambassador). Pretty fancy and important, but not enough to stop me from conjuring ways to test her diplomatic immunity. While I was never secretive about my mischievous intentions, I never did manage to think of anything good. Also, she drove one of those vehicles with the steering column on the right side. It was always disconcerting.
I realize that many of you aren’t privy to my Facebook page, so I’ll recant the event for you. Really, I don’t so much have a choice. I arrived at the venue in true bag-lady fashion roughly an hour early and took a cup of tea with a friend in the lounge. When the doors opened, foreign service people, dignitaries, expat community members alike filed in two-by-two to be greeted by Her Excellency and husband. Slightly disheveled and carrying one too many bags, I attempted to put my best foot forward and quietly moved on. Inside, my homegirl, smartly outfitted and playing every bit the part of a dignified hostess, flittered about expertly. At my state she laughed and shook her head; I hadn’t yet put my bags down. “Have you met Ambassador yet?” she asked with a thick accent I always amusing, yet comforting (the Jamaican accent reminds me of life in Miami). I confessed I did so quietly. This dissatisfied her and she turned me on my heel and marched me over to do it again. We waited until the remainder of the queue had entered.
“This is Joyce.” she said, “She’s been designing all sorts of pretty things for us.” (It’s true, half true for that particular event). To which Madam Ambassador responded, “I knew who you were” and gave me a hug. The kind gesture left me somewhere between partially ashamed and mortified. I’d only given my first name and it appeared I had some sort of reputation that preceded me. Not a doubt in my mind she was told I was special.
I’ll end with the mention of a couple participants I meet during the conference. They’re babies, still wet behind the ears, and yet the contributions they’re made to the world so far are astounding.
At barely 5-feet, Aya Chebbi is a force to be reckoned with. A native of Tunisia, Aya is an award-winning Pan-African feminist activist and blogger fighting for gender equality. (Her bold activism has gotten her banned from entering Egypt.) Last summer she was invited by UN Women to speak at the 59th session of the Commission on the Status of Women (CSW) in New York (video link here). It would be one of many talks at various organizations she would give in 2015. Visit her website, blogspot, and Facebook pages.
Mohammed Elshamy is an interesting one. A photojournalist based in Nigeria, one cannot imagine the things he has been through and seen, particularly the plight of the refugees and the ebola crisis. And yet during our week Berlin, I’d noted that it was often joy and mischief that contorted his face. Mohammed’s images, both stunning and gut-wrenching, can be seen on his Facebook page and website.
January 4, 2016 § Leave a comment
I asked my mom what she wanted for Christmas and her request contained one item: that I write in my blog. Despite being privy to the going-ons of my life, she insists its necessity; gossip fodder for her and pals at work. She recently confessed to “stumbling” upon some of my old elementary and middle school journals. Decency would have insisted she leave them be, but nosey folk and mischievous rascals stay eager for news to pass on. Instead she took my observations to work to share with the gals in ICU. Sinvergüenza. I like that she really has zero shame about it and that I foresaw this happening and decided off the bat never to write anything too personal in it. Jokes on you mom!
For those of you who emailed after my well being and whereabouts: I’m here on planet Earth and I’m alive. Thank you for inquiring.
The last you heard from me, I was splashing about in Lake Orhid, having been one of 70 participants selected to attend the Preparing Global Leaders Institute 2014 session in Macedonia (FYROM). In between romps in the lake and boat rides over it, late nights in Struga, day walks in Bitola and Orhid, play time in Skopje and more ice-cream consumption than I care to admit, my fellow comrades and I underwent 14 days of intensive training in diplomacy and global leadership, primarily through lectures by (Dr.) Sam Potolicchio (whose intimidating bio can be read here), with sessions by foreign service officers/dignitaries, field specialists, educators and businesspersons scheduled throughout. The session concluded with a formal graduation ceremony held at the Macedonian Ministry of Foreign Affairs. The trip however didn’t end there.
With two days before our departure, Australia and I decided to squeeze in a side trip. Our choices were Sofia, Bulgaria and Thessaloniki, Greece. We decided on the latter. With the help of new friends I met at the main SDA church there in Skopje, I was able to secure our tickets for the first bus out the next day.
Thessaloniki from Skopje takes roughly 2 hrs and 45 mins by car. By bus, 4.5 hours. When we arrived we headed straight to our hotel, the Capsis Hotel Thessaloniki, located a convenient 4 blocks away. The plan was to drop our items and head out, but travel and social exhaustion struck us like a ton of bricks and nothing sounded better than sleeping. So sleep we did. Famished and desperate for a well-balanced meal* we meandered into town that evening. Day 14 concluded with a fine dinner at a charming restaurant somewhere in the center of the city. A congratulatory gift to ourselves.
Our goal was to chill at the beach on Day 15, but given that Thessaloniki’s a port city, a decent swimming beach would have been at least an hour away, two for a really good one I’d been told about. So we played tourists instead.
To maximize coverage of the ancient biblical city, my homegirl and I opted for the Hop On Hop Off Tour. According to the website, we were went by the White Tower, Archaelogical Museum, Agia Sofia, Agios Dimitrios, the byzantine Castles, Arch of Galerius, Aristotelous-square and the Port. While I remember seeing a majority of these, the strongest memory I can recall was me concentrating on not to passing out from the heat. Did I mention how hot Greece in August was? It was hot as s### hot; the devil farting out hell fire and brimstone hot, and it was sucking every ounce of life right out of me. (I’ve never been one for hot weather. My body doesn’t like it, I’m personally not fond of it and I don’t know how to dress for it–see images above. Give me rain, snow and gloom any day.)
At the end of the tour we managed to stagger our way to a some shops where purchases were made and then hoofed it back to our hotel. The rest of our afternoon was occupied with swimming and smoothies at the rooftop lounge (which I recognize sounds mega bougie :/), episodes of the Mindy Project, and re-packing for our bus ride and flight departure.
*While I appreciated the vegetarian meal options provided during the session, by the end of it my system had hardened into lead. A good three months would pass before I was able to look at a piece of bread/starch. That’s also how long it took to lose the weight I put on.
The thing about traveling as a single female(s) is that sometimes you have to, as my pal Hallie from Down and Out in the EU so colorfully puts it, “chin-check a mother #%@&#^”. While sorting out our reserved tickets, I had the great displeasure of standing before a fellow who had zero regard for my personal space–conveniently as soon as there were no longer any other men around– to the point where he was all up in the transaction I was conducting with the service rep. The bus driver also wandered over at that precise time to nosey. Dudes caught the wrong ones that day and they found out real fast. Not one cast a glance our way the entire drive back.
I had only the faintest idea of what to expect going into the program. By the end of it I was left completely blown away. If I had to describe the experience in one word, from the organizers (Angela, Ivana, Dimitar, Arben and Emilija) to the curriculum and my peers from around the world, “remarkable” would be it. Little did I know what effects it would have…